Smart Parenting: There is no APP for it

How much “smart” the world has become? The answer lies in your perception of “smartness”. If you consider yourself a smart person, then you must have that extra spark in you which you can ignite whenever you need it. But on the other hand, the very split second you have finished reading my question, picture of your “smart gadget” flashed in your mind, then this post is for you, my friend.

Smart Gadgets

For past 10 years or so, smart gadgets (smartphones and tablets) have changed human life across the planet. Yes they put the whole world in your hands and life seems incomplete without them nowadays. But I believe that some parts of life don’t need gadget smartness. They simply need natural touch of human smartness, not pointing your index finger on some shiny smart gadget you own.

Smart Gadgets in use

To be honest with you, I don’t envy them. These devices are great & they sure help us a lot. You can check your email anytime you want, you can chat with your buddies while riding back home from office, you can hangout with your boss (if you want or if he/she makes you), you share the craziest stories with your in-laws, there are so many things you can do with smart gadgets these days.

Smartphone Usage

But I believe that when it comes to parenting your child, it should be only YOU, all alone in front of a young brain who may ask you someday “what do plants eat to live” “or “how does it rain“. If this happens, you have 2 choices:

1) If not much glued you are on your smart gadget, you will quickly google your child questions on it. After finding an answer, you may tell the answer to your kid, reciting it word by word from the website you found it on.
2) You listen to your child’s question with a smiling face, sit next to him/her and then in your own words explain what do plants eat to live or how does it

So what will you do when this happens? Did you answered 1 or 2?

Child vs Smartphone

Do you want your child to rely more a smart gadget then you?

You may answer no and it should be a NO. Your child values more than anything else in your life and like all other parents, you want to be proud of them. You want them to be smart but you shouldn’t rely too heavily on a smart gadget for them to be smart. I say it again: these devices are good, they help a lot but when it comes to nurture a young mind, please put them aside. A time you want to spend with your child should be between YOU and your CHILD only. Play around and explore things together.

Dad & Son

I try my utmost to keep my cellphone (yes, I don’t own a smartphone or tablet) away whenever my son needs me. He will turn 2 years old this June and like all other parents, I want him to be smart, to be active, full of life. I want to develop his mind using my very own smartness. That personal smartness of mine is what he needs and this is the most important thing I can give to him. He is learning from me and believe me, I have learnt
so much ever since I became a father without the help of an app. He needs my 100% attention whenever he is with me and I can’t give him my 100% if I’m focusing more on my smart gadget than him.

Mom & Kid

With high level of advancement in the smart gadget’s capability, people are becoming more and more reliable on them. The most prominent and alarming group among those is of parents. Giving your smart gadget more priority then your child is a not “smart” move, its just simply a BAD move. Our digital world should stay at a safe distance from our real world. Whether it is my son or your child, they are REAL. They need their PARENTS, not an APP.

Further reading on this topic:

James Stanfield Blog: Smartphones, Tablets, and Parenting

NPR Blog: For The Children’s Sake, Put Down That Smartphone

What I Learned from a Week Away from Tech Distractions

7 thoughts on “Smart Parenting: There is no APP for it

  1. Haya May 10, 2015 / 11:24 AM

    So true! Reflection of our real world. Would like to see u write on Game addicts and couch potatoes too.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Hammad Rais May 11, 2015 / 10:42 AM

      Thank you so much for such a lovely reply and suggestions. Topics you have suggested are interesting
      Thank you once again

      Liked by 1 person

    • Haya May 11, 2015 / 11:45 AM

      u r welcome. I truely appreciate what u had written about parenting. Inspiring.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Umair Khalid April 14, 2015 / 4:54 PM

    Excellent article hammad but to mention at certain you should introduce them to this digital yourself…another field of smart parenting….becuase you cant and shouldn’t let them to be disconnected from THE WORLD…

    Liked by 1 person

    • Hammad Rais April 14, 2015 / 5:03 PM

      thanks for the reply, I know that I shouldn’t keep my son “disconnect” from the world, but for this, RIGHT TIMING is a must. Don’t you agree?


    • Umair Khalid April 14, 2015 / 5:08 PM

      I agree but to know the “RIGHT TIMING” is also smart parenting 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

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