A Young Mind Is A Young Tree

Is there a difference between a 5-year old kid, who is just about to get enrolled in a school, and a plant which has just burst open the ground to grow high?

I believe there is no difference. Both are young and they have so much to explore in a  new world, whether by opening their eyes or branching out with stems.

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My nephew Abdullah is 5-years old. He goes to Montessori every weekday and enjoys it very much. He enjoys learning also and I often see him either spelling a object he is holding in his hand or counting whatever is in front of him. He also loves to teach his sister, Zainab and my son, Uzair, very much as they actively play and learn around the house often.

Since September, Abdullah is preparing up to appear in enterance exams of different schools in Karachi. Every evening, he spend about 2-3 hours in preparation for those entrance exams in home. During the weekend, sometimes he studies in day also. Although he loves learning and studying, just sometimes his mind signals him to stop, which is what I believe whenever he ask his mother to let him play for a while. Reminding you again, he is a 5-year old kid, who will never say no to play all day long without taking a break. His mother allow him to play if he had completed his homework but this doesn’t happen most of the time. Zainab and Uzair play right outside Abdullah’s room as he listens to them having fun. I’m observing this for quite sometime now and it doesn’t feel right to me at all.


I know education is life’s basic need and I agree that every child in the world deserve the right to have proper education. But the way we provide it our kids, especially in Pakistan, is totally not right. Abdullah is just 5-years old for crying out loud and filling up his brain, through tiresome routine is definitely not the right way.

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Let me tell you in few steps what a child goes through in Pakistan, if he/she is just about the right age to enter school:

Step #1:
Your kid (maximum age limit: 3) enrolls in an early educational/preparation institutes here. These institutes provide first fundamental education to them. How to read, how to write, how to name things, what color is that, what object you are holding, etc. These institutes are a doing great job in opening up the doors of a young mind. I’m saying this because Uzair can now name the colors perfectly, he can count up to 20 and he is learning how to write alphabets and numbers quickly. This is really big for him and me and Jia (my wife) are focusing hard on him at home too, so that learning the basics remains easy for him.

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But these institutions are mainly acting as preparation centers, where children start the learning process of reading and writing on their own. After about 2 years of providing basic education (or in other words, preparing them up for what lies ahead), these institutions then conduct exams to judge how much ready is your kid. Once he/she clears out those exams, then comes that gruesome part of their lives through which me or anyone else I know among my family and friends, had ever gone through in our childhood.

Step #2:
Congratulations! Your child has just passed the exams conducted by those preparation institutes in Karachi and it is time for you, the parents, to find that perfect (or in other words, out-of-this-world) school, where your flesh and blood will continue up with his/her education. But that seems like an easy part of the whole process because after you have found that “perfect” school, it is solely up to your child how much he/she scores in the entrance test for that school.

Yes, that entrance test for which not only the child, but his/her parents also, went through so much for past 3 years or so, will determine whether your combine tireless efforts worth anything or is it next to none.

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And this is the thing that bugs me the most as it is just simply wrong on every imaginable level.

Why schools in Karachi are doing this? A school provides education, right? They are the first beacon of light and knowledge for a young mind. They create a mold for a child’s future, on which his/her whole life will depend.

But over here it is now mandatory in almost every major (or should I say branded) school in Karachi that a child must pass an entrance test to enroll. This is really freaking me out as schools in Karachi, and probably across all other major cities of Pakistan, are only opening their doors for children with pre-filled knowledge of the world, instead of providing it to them.

How in the world can this be normal?

No way I say and I really mean it. Our schooling system is just about how much money can be sucked out of parents in the name of branded education, with all the fanciness and lavish extravaganza they can come up with in the name of high-class quality education. Our schooling system is totally wrong and the way they educate young minds seems horrific to me instead of something creative.

First of all, why kids like Abdullah (5 year old he is) had to go through this mental torturing in the name of school entrance tests?

Their minds are young, for crying out loud!

They had just started to use their little brains to explore and learn about the world they just landed in and the very first step we, the adults, tell them to take is to soak in as much “knowledge” and “information” they can about the world they live in. So those big classy schools can open their doors for them and suck the blood out of their parent’s veins (in form of heavy school fees) for the rest of their lives. Does this seems normal?

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I’m really not fine with this at all as whenever I see Abdullah’s tired little face, I think about Uzair, who will have to go through the same in coming days. Jia and I are preparing up ourselves for this but deep in my heart, I’m not comfortable with this.

Jia and I strongly thinking about not dragging Uzair over the same path Abdullah is going through. We do want Uzair to learn and understand the world he lives in but this must be done through simplicity and ease of mind, not by torturing the young one.

There are many schools in Karachi which aren’t branding themselves as fancy schools. They also provide good education and their fees is reasonable. So, I may enroll Uzair in such school where he will learn about the world and develop his understanding more firmly.

Jia and I, as his parents, strongly believe home nurturing plays a vital role in child’s development beside school education. A child learns so much from his/her home as well as from school and both these areas plants a seed in that child, which grows into a bright future.

There is no difference between a young mind and a young tree. A tree needs open, wide space to grow and so does a young mind, as this ensure better and brighter future for them.


14 thoughts on “A Young Mind Is A Young Tree

  1. Andrew Blair June 23, 2021 / 8:11 AM

    Hello everyone, I confess that we were far too poor for such nonesense and had to settle for free education which in no way affected our sons’ gaining entry to University since all children sat the same Government exams whether they went to a swanky school or not. The cost of what we call pre-school here was astronomical when my eldest was old enough, so he just had to miss out, we taught him at home and saved the money. When I was at school I enterered kindergarten already reading and writing, was promoted to the top class and had to wait another 18 months before they were allowed to send us – an entire class of bright sparks, bored to death -to Primary school. Pakistan sounds like a place not to be if one is as financially challenged as we were.


  2. Hammad Rais March 1, 2019 / 5:03 PM

    Reblogged this on Blog of Hammad Rais and commented:

    Tomorrow is a big day for Uzair!

    As all that he has learned, both in school and in home during last 3 years, will be put to a big test.

    A big test in the form of an entry test in one of Karachi’s most renowned school!

    And I’m picturing the preparation done by him in last 6+ month as if he had to walk on an bumpy, uneven path, which ain’t surrounded by jaw dropping gorgeous wonders of nature I often talk about on my blog.

    I’m confessing here today that as parents of Uzair, me and Jia, made him took that uneven path. Despite knowing all along how much tired he will be in the end, we forced our own flesh and blood to take down that dirty path.

    Now you might be wondering why in the world am I referring the topic of studying in school or at home as walking on a bumpy path.

    To understand this thoroughly, I would like you to read out this post I wrote about 3 years ago (link mentioned below). I expressed my thoughts and feelings very clearly in that post when my nephew Abdullah, who was 5 years old back then, gave the entry test for that very same renowned school. He is now studying in second grade over there.

    In past, Jia and I discussed so much about putting Uzair on that same bumpy path, like his cousin Abdullah. Sadly, he too had to went down that path but in the end, he crossed it eventually in the form of passing the entry test. After many discussions and calculating about all available options we have, Jia and I realized that we no other choice but to take that bumpy road with Uzair too.

    Just like all loving parents of the world, me and Jia want to see our Uzair to be happy and successful in life. The very core reason behind my sitting in front of a computer screen for 8+ hours at my workplace on weekdays is nothing but to provide my Uzair with what he truly deserves.

    But the world we live in ain’t gonna give us all the happiness and success without dragging us first on a bumpy path!


  3. wish 93 November 21, 2016 / 10:42 AM

    I agree with you, the intellect of a person is determined by standardized tests… I remember preparing for tests for entrance in school, university and now these days, I am preparing almost 2 hours daily for a test that will lead to employment, if I pass it. You have to pay and pass in order to get a pay/education…. Frustrating!

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    • Hammad Rais November 21, 2016 / 1:12 PM

      This really frustrate not only the person who is going through this but also those who are close to him/her.
      And what is the concept behind planting this “pass the entrance test for admission” seed?
      I know education system is very much bad in our country but this is not the solution of finding that “perfect” mind with entire knowledge of the world and capable of solving every major issue.
      Every child is special because he/she possesses a special set of skills. Our schooling system should work on polishing that skill, not suppressing it.

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    • wish 93 November 22, 2016 / 9:02 AM

      It is true… No one is ever able to solve everything! Once you pass the test, you are bound to forget… Importance should be given to technical, vocational skills development rather than overloading minds with bookish knowledge… Kids these days lack concepts, because they are asked to rote and memorize and their abilities are judged accordingly!

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  4. Itching for Hitching November 21, 2016 / 6:10 AM

    A difficult time for you Hammad. Sadly there is too much emphasis on the school’s academic achievement and thus financial success rather than inspiring young minds. Can creativity be measured in dollars, francs or rupees? I doubt it. Be brave and make the most of life’s lessons as your young man grows.

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    • Hammad Rais November 21, 2016 / 7:05 AM

      There is no value of creativity. It very special, and every child possess a very unique set of it. I’m still working upon what should be the best for uzair, not just in terms of good schooling but also in lighting up his mind with something which can last a lifetime.
      Thanks for reading out and sharing your thoughts 🙂

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    • Hammad Rais November 20, 2016 / 1:11 PM

      Thank you. I admit I got bit frustrated because I kept on thinking about Uzair but later I thought about the solutions and discussed with my family too. Much relax now I’m 🙂


  5. camilledefleurville November 19, 2016 / 9:04 PM

    Of course, I agree with you and with Jia. Torturing young children like this is moulding them for the competitive system, where an “elite” creates a “web” of relationships that will help him/her grow and swim in the upper pond of this world. We are seeing, abashed, where this system leads to during these days.
    However, it depends on what values parents have and to what social position they aim at for their offspring. Will “no fancy” schools give Uzair the same opportunities for a job and for a “high” social position later in life? But is this what you both wish for your son?
    I was lucky to live in a family that has insisted on moral values and home learning: they are the best basis on which to build a life. However, the social network was already there and I profited from it and from the system to be enrolled in the “grandes écoles” which are the equivalent of Cambridge, Oxford, in France.
    Not that it was of great importance for me as I find myself with The Girls in the middle of the countryside and not using what knowledge I have. In my case, the moral values and what I learnt at home were more important for the life I lead now. But I wish no one will have to live what I live.

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    • Hammad Rais November 19, 2016 / 10:09 PM

      Thank you so much for reading out my lengthy post. I admit I was frustrated for a while over this but after little thinking and discussions with family and Jia, I feel much relaxed.
      You are absolutely right about moral values. My parents and my whole family had always given it the first importance among all. Jia and I are want the same for Uzair. We don’t want Uzair to score top position in class. Learning and understanding a lesson is far more important than scoring high grades.

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    • camilledefleurville November 20, 2016 / 5:00 PM

      I agree with you all but I am sorry if my post was disturbing. I only wanted to point out that the system is such that social position is often forged by networking in these public schools (according to the British jargon), or private schools in France or State/public schools but with a higher status than others. I thought that might be the same in Karachi when I read your post.
      (By the way, it is not lengthy at all and I found it very interesting and rather universal: all parents are concerned by your issue.)
      If you aim at moral values, real knowledge and understanding of knowledge with a critical point of view (which is how I was raised and educated, and which it seems you, yourselves, have been as well), hammering facts into the brain of a child in order for him/her to enroll into the top “fancy schools” is not necessary and might be detrimental for him/her.
      I do think that moral values are like bones that make the skeleton of our lives; then we flesh it on with our own experiences but the values are here, and they are important.
      However, of course, it is up to parents to decide. But we would not be friends if there was not something similar in both of us: moral values! 🙂

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